Monday, November 7, 2011

UPDATED: Not ONE person better wish me a Happy Birthday!!!

That's not very nice, is it?  To not want to be wished 'happy birthday?'  The thing is, I didn't turn 30 easily.  I grew up fast, I made sure of it, but that didn't mean that I liked birthdays, and I don' own, that is.  I think I just hurt my husband's feelings because of this, and I'll have to go make amends for that, but don't you think that my wishes for my own birthday should mean something?  If ask 'no party' then I shouldn't have to endure a party in my own honor, one that I've been saying for over a year 'seriously, people, I mean it!'  If I ask, 'no gifts, I don't want anything for or on my birthday or anytime that is to celebrate the date of my birth this year' then I should have those wishes, don't you think?  I'll be celebrating the 2nd anniversary of my 39th birthday this year...tomorrow, actually, so you can figure out what age that is.  I do not want to be that age...I didn't want to be 30, so why the hell would I want to be 40???  I just caught my girls and hubs whispering under their breath to each other, and I know what that means...they have a prezzie or surprise that they're discussing or trying to hide.  I said, 'ya'll, I've been saying, I want NOTHING for my birthday except a normal day, and I mean it.  Do NOT wish me a Happy Birthday, do not give me a gift, don't even mention what the day is!'  I mean it so much, that even if my hubs comes in with a new $600 Coach bag, I'll be upset, not happy or surprised, but livid, to the point of pissed, because it's MY friggin birthday and those are my wishes!  I'm trying to save people money and the hassle of having to remember a birthday, to the point you don't even have to write it in your 'dates to remember' book, give it up already and take MY gift to YOU and forget about it....grrrrrrrrrr.  btw, thank you blogging bestie for my Bath and Body Works surprise package!! lol And all of this is probably why you had it sent to me LAST week instead of this week, lol  but I also know that you won't call, text, email, tweet, or blog me a 'happy birthday' tomorrow, lol  and THAT'S why you're my bloggin' bestie  ;)

Seriously, I can NOT be the only one in the world that feels this way.  Do ANY of you sympathize with me about this?  it's just so frustrating!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

UPDATE:  yes, I went downstairs last night and the hubs had a gift...he brought it in from the car and it was a HUGE Coach gift bag, with a HUGE Coach gift box w/ribbon in side.  I instantly burst into tears, because I told him I wanted NOTHING, and if I wanted nothing, then I defintely wouldn't want him to spend hundreds of dollars on me for a bday I didn't want to celebrate when we have bills that need paid, and he knows these were my wishes.  Ya know what he said???? Those rules and wishes don't apply to husbands.  yep, that's what he said.  So, my wishes only matter when someone wants to abide by them, but not when they want to say it doesn't apply to them? He got me a lafge Coach Tartan that he ordered weeks ago and they had to get it from Detroit because no one in St. Louis carries it yet.  So how am I suppose to be mad at him for that?  So he said, 'happy Monday' when he gave it to me....ok, well, tomorrow's Wednesday, wtf am I gonna get for THAT day??? lol


Melissa said...

I didn't turn 30 easy, but 40 was nothing. I've been over 40 for a few years...can't ever remember exactly how many without counting it up. I'll be adding another year to forget about next week.
But I still feel like I'm in my 30's - like, thank goodness I outgrew my 20's, but I am not yet old.
And gurrrl, I never turn down presents for any reason, lol.

Hope you have/had a great day!

Glenda said...

I also do not tur Presents down but I understand where you are coming from. My Birthday was the 4the 4th of this month and I tried to hide inside all day only like your hubby he had other plans for me. But to me Birthdays are not good as 2 weeks later my daughter was killed so why would I want to celebrate it?

Debbie Hewitt said...

Glenda, I'm so sorry, that WOULD be a horrible reminder of an impending day, timing the anniversary of her death by your birthday...I'm so sorry for your loss and that you had to lose your child too soon. My oldest daughter's bday is on the 4th, as well. She turned 18 this year, she was thrilled to do so on some levels, and terrified on others. My girls ask me 'why' I don't like my birthday. I tell them some years its ok, others not so much, but that just like when you're a kid, you don't want to grow up, it's the same for when you're an adult, it always gets us one foot closer to our death, but mine's more like one day closer to my wheelchair that I know I'll eventually be in in less than 10 yrs. It's odd to say, that in 10 yrs I'll be 50!!! 50!!!!!!!!!!!!!! wtf?????!!!!!!!!!! how the hell did THAT happen? You wonder sometimes...where some people get off thinking they know you better than you know yourself, when all they're really doing is telling themselves that they do, when they truly don't know a hill of beans about you! that crossed my mind while thinking of all the people who wanted to wish me a happy bday, and it occured to me that they didn't really know me...they sure as hell didn't listen to me. My blogging bestie (Kelsey), whom, btw I think thought I was just kidding when I said that I didn't like my bday, lol, decided that reverse psychology may help and thought if she'd wish me a happy bday constantly throughout the day, that it may just do the trick of changing my mind, lol. Thanks Kelsey...sorry, sweetie, it didn't change my mind at all, lol, not even the $500 Coach bag changed my mind, lol In the end, I ended up avoiding all social networking sites for the day, read some, did my physical therapy appointment, and finally got some work done on a few deadlines I have, oh, and I avoided the phone completely, other than a few text msgs, I never answered ONE call, ZERO. Hubs cooked dinner, as he always does on Tuesdays, it was a normal night, which is EXACTLY what I'd asked for! :) see, even tho the 3 of them so desparately wanted to scream 'happy birthday' from the roof tops, they listened and didn't do a thing to warrant solicitation of such on the day itself (just the night before, ugh, lol), because THEY know me.

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